A (+) Resolution

A couple months ago I listened to a speech about “negative thought.” She said that we have somewhere around 15,000-60,000 thoughts each day, and about 80% of those thoughts are negative. 80 PERCENT!!!! I of course immediately denied that I would fit into this statistic. Then I started paying more attention to what was going on in my head. Every time a negative thought popped in, I took note.

What I came to discover is that, if someone was able to hear my thoughts, they wouldn’t care for me much, and they would be terribly bored. Day after day, I think about specific events that upset me, like a broken record. The most common topic to come into my mind is the feeling of frustration, mostly by the actions of other people, or lack of actions. When I investigated this farther, I realized that these are almost always referring to specific situations that I’m too chicken to approach the person about. So, I get angrier and angrier that they wont change their behavior. The bottom line is that this anger is mine. The reason they won’t change their behavior is most frequently because I never asked them to! – So, I need to either let it go, or deal with it like a mature adult.

The other common negative thoughts are often fleeting, while driving, or waiting in line. Small miscellaneous actions other people have made, that simply annoy me. Sometimes they are shame related (i.e. I’m not good enough, will other people judge me if I do/say this? Etc)

I also find myself the most short-tempered at work, where I have the most stresses and with family, whom I’m most comfortable with.

The reason I’m sharing this is because I’m making it my New Years resolution to knock negativity down to 10% or less. Those who go through life with positive attitudes and aren’t secretly judging, are probably the most enlightened, they see that our thoughts are not who we are, and understand that every person is an important part of the collective. I can grasp these ideas, but will have to reprogram my brain in order to live them fully. Wish me luck!

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Achieving Your Goals

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Sometimes in moments of pure joy, I get this overwhelming feeling of motivation to do something greater in life. I enjoy the feeling for as long as it lasts, until I inevitably question myself. How can I do something great, if I can’t even figure out what it is!? Where do I begin? My brain wants answers.

Even when those moments of total motivation aren’t present, I still ponder on how I can make my mark on the World. How I can do something positive to empower the needy? I’m comforted when I take myself back to the present. Doing grand acts of kindness and good for the World is a goal, but in the mean time, every moment provides opportunities to make others feel good.

I started this blog as a small step, to send the good words out to those that want to hear them. I also wrote a short story, that I plan to turn into an illustrated children’s book. I let my emotions guide me on my daily journeys. I believe that following my excitements at every moment will take me to where exactly I am supposed to be at that exact time. I also believe in the power of a positive attitude. A great speaker once said, “it’s not ‘seeing is believing’ it’s ‘believing is seeing.’” If you really focus your energy on what you want, and know in your heart that you will one day achieve that, then every minute until then is there to simply be enjoyed or appreciated for what it teaches you. It is the journey. In the end, this life is nothing but a story, so lets make it a good one!